I love naming children. It’s one of the exciting parts of giving life, for me.
Veva Marie is named after me, Jewel Suzanne is named after my mom and sister and there was no question in my mind that Zara should be named after D’s mum, Margaret Cruse. Her middle name was settled.
I suggested Zara early on and D ran with it. He recruited the kids and they started calling her Zara the day we found out she was a girl. That was it. She was Zara and suddenly my list of names was obsolete. It was perfect for her, D loved it and it was meaningful to my own personal journey over the past couple years.
In Hebrew Zara means “seed”. The symbolism of a seed is meaningful to me. I see parallels to human life. And it’s a sound reminder of my role as a parent.
A seed is whole. It is complete. While at the same time has the opportunity for transformation to fulfill the measure of its creation. Isn’t that how we are? We should accept ourselves because we are whole and we have been since day one, simultaneously, we should expect more of ourselves because we have everything within us for greatness. And these little babies we are to care for? It became apparent early on that these tiny humans come capable and equipped with all they need to meet their full potential. Like a seed. Whole, complete, encompassing all that is necessary for fruition. Simply add a little nourishment and that seed will blossom. As a parent my role is simply to cultivate the soil and adjust the environment for optimal thriving. .
And that’s how the name Zara Cruse came to be.
So here’s my advice:
- Think about who you want your child to be named after. My children love being named after a relative because it gives them a sense pride that they were named after some with notable characteristic. They love to hear stories about the relative and I can always find attributes that they have in common with each other. I love to remind them about these characteristics. Like, Grandpa Arlo was such a hard working man, kind person and you remind me a lot of him.
- Family and friends will learn to love it. Some names may sound different at first but the children always make the name. My husband is from Scotland and so some of our children’s names come from there. They sound different to most Americans but even the most sceptic relative will learn to love the name. And if they don’t, it’s ok.
- Listen to your intuition. My sister doesn’t feel like she picked any of her children’s names. She would read the name or hear it and she knew that what she needed to name her child. It would just stick.
- You don’t have to settle on one name. Have a couple of names picked out and then when the baby is born it will be easier to determine the name. Usually one of them will sound right to you.