Although we do not know about the depressions they experienced in their tiny world, and we find their worries unwarranted from time to time, in fact, underneath all of them lies the mistakes made about child development.
Therefore, as a mother, it is one of her greatest duties to make up for her deficiencies in child psychology and to do her best so that her little one has a healthy body and soul. Well let’s get started then!
1. Emotional tensions underlie nail biting in children
There are mostly psychological reasons underlying the nail biting habit in children. Therefore, when your little one feels under pressure, they may tend to bite their nails in order to relieve their tension or cope with their intense emotions.
For this, you must encourage your child and be patient with him. By recognizing the causes of nail biting, you must make sacrifices and cooperate with it to eliminate them.
You need to try to resolve this issue before it becomes a big problem or an emotional one. If you give your child time and are consistent, you may find that these suggestions work. If you think that what you are doing is not working and your child is still under intense stress, of course, do not neglect to seek help from a specialist.
2. The hyperactive child wants to be understood
Hyperactivity in children results from the inability to release the tension created by painful emotions. In the first years, you can suppress this situation with crying, squirming, shaking and other movements. However, although actions such as shaking and bouncing are fun and useful, such stimuli can distract your baby from crying, be careful.
As in all other problems, the most correct approach in the problem of hyperactivity is the holistic perspective, in which all possible causes are evaluated. You should definitely evaluate your child’s eating habits, emotional state and the environment in which he lives. You should consider drug use as a last resort after trying all approaches.
Just because your child is hyperactive doesn’t mean she has more problems than a child who overeats or sucks her thumb. It doesn’t mean you’re a failed parent, either. Remember that your little one can act like this to deal with stress and avoid painful feelings. You should encourage him to express his feelings by laughing, crying, or getting angry. Thus, you can reduce the symptoms of hyperactivity.
Sometimes you have to steadfastly hug your little one to help him stop his wild, frantic and aggressive behavior and channel his energy into crying or getting angry. If you think that you can’t make any progress despite doing your best, it would be useful to get support from a child psychology and mental health specialist.
3. Anorexia child is not pressured
There are times when young children eat certain foods all the time and strongly hate certain foods. As a parent, you may not know how to deal with this. Research shows that babies eat more balanced and healthy when they are trusted and allowed to choose their own food.
Your little one may develop an intense aversion to some foods and may not even want to taste new foods. It is not possible to make your child love the food he detests by using any reasoning, bribery, cheating or deception. In such a situation, you should not force him.
Another reason why children refuse certain foods is related to their fears. If the child is afraid of the toilet, he cannot eat any food that he likens to feces. At such times, adopting an authoritarian and punitive approach and attempting to beat your child or sending him to his room may cause him to cry.
Your child may have a poor appetite, wanting to eat only one type of food for several days. There is nothing to worry about. One day he may want to eat only potatoes, another day he may not want to consume anything other than cheese. As long as he doesn’t have any health problems, you should trust him to get enough protein, carbohydrates, fat and vitamins for himself. You shouldn’t reward him with junk food just to eat something healthy.
4. There may be psychological reasons behind bedwetting in children.
The limit between being considered normal and seeing it as a problem is at the age of 5 years. If a child over the age of 5 urinates on his bed at night, it may be an indication of a physical or psychological problem.
There is some evidence to suggest that bedwetting, which is not due to a physical cause, is caused by suppressed emotions. It has been observed that children who wet the bed often cannot express their feelings openly.
If your child is wetting the bed, the first thing you should do is rule out possible physical causes by having a medical evaluation of the condition. If the problem is psychological, you can try to sleep next to your child. Having a sense of intimacy and trust at night can solve the problem.
If the problem still persists, you can try to identify sources of stress and anxiety in your life. You should be aware that your child does not voluntarily wet the bed and should not approach them with accusatory, embarrassing or frightening feelings. You should make every effort to express your feelings by playing, laughing, crying, and getting angry.
5. Separation anxiety in children is not abnormal
Many young children are strongly attached to their mother or caregiver and do not want to be separated from them. You may wonder if this is natural behavior and how long it will last. Continuing separation anxiety in 2-year-olds is very natural and common, you don’t have to worry about it.
There are various reasons why a child may cry when separated from their parents. The child who is separated from his parent may seem to cry because of the separation, but in fact, he may just be expressing his accumulated feelings, he may need it.
The child may cry because he remembers an old breakup that caused him pain, at an age where he needed constant attention and care. In such a situation, he will continue to cry every time he is separated from you or his father until he fully heals the effects of his past trauma.
If you think this is one of the reasons why your child is resisting the separation, it’s better to let her go and let her cry. However, it is important that the person you leave your little one with is someone who will give them confidence and support by understanding their crying. That way, you can be sure that she hasn’t had an experience that frightened her, but that you’ve just healed her past traumas.
6. Sibling jealousy stems from the inability to share a loved one and basically insecurity
Experts say that with the birth of the new baby, mothers spend less time with their older child, are not as affectionate as they used to be, and play with him less.
This may lead to the development of feelings such as anger and resentment towards the baby or to direct such feelings towards the father. Your child may begin to feel abandoned, insecure, and unsupported. In addition, he may show a regression behavior in order to regain the lost interest.
There are many ways to minimize the negative feelings that arise from sibling jealousy before it completely settles. The father also has a big role to play here. Your spouse can spend more time with your older child. You can also get help from your older child in taking care of the baby. It is very important to keep the balance, and the excessive attention and privilege you show to your elder child will not be very helpful.
You should encourage your little one to approach your sibling in a loving way and help them develop positive relationships by preventing their negative behaviors.