The roots of tantrums, which occur due to negative experiences and misbehaviors, actually go back to childhood. What could be the reason for this extreme anger and how can anger control be achieved with children? Come on, read calmly!
What is a tantrum?
This emotion, which occurs when something is blocked, is an uncontrollable state of anger and nervousness. Temper tantrums can occur in children as well as adults. Temper tantrums in children usually occur between the ages of 1.5 and 2.5 years.
What could be the cause of excessive anger in a child?
Excessive anger can lead to aggressive behavior in children. There may be various reasons for the child’s anger and aggressive behavior.
Temper tantrums can be seen in children around the age of 1 at the earliest. When the child, who starts to take his first steps, explores his environment and experiences the feeling of independence, tantrums may be inevitable when he encounters no answer in this period.
The 2-year-old period is the child’s “me” period. The child who declares his independence and does not accept any ideas against his will may become angry and aggressive when faced with obstacles. One of the reasons for aggression in children is that the child takes his peers as a model. Sometimes, he can act aggressively by watching his peers around him.
- don’t hurt,
- internal conflicts,
- Needs not met
- encountering unexpected results,
- Factors such as lack of communication can also cause tantrums in children of all ages.
The child who cannot express himself well gets angry!
Anger outbursts at the age of 4 are extremely common, as preschool children can easily get angry and display aggressive behaviors. Anger can be seen in 3-5-year-old children who cannot express themselves well enough, whose things they want to do are blocked by someone else, and who have to share their toys or any belongings that belong to them.
Anger can be expressed in school period!
5 to 6-year-old tantrums can be seen for different reasons compared to previous periods. Since the child at this age has the ability to express himself, the negativities he experiences, the situations he does not like and the situations such as discrimination or exclusion may cause him to become angry. 5 year old tantrums can also cause the child to act in ways that express this anger.
Again, since this 3-6 age period is important for the development of the child’s sexual identity, children may have a feeling of hostility towards their same-sex parents. Especially in girls, there may be an interest in the father under the anger towards the mother.
Symptoms of tantrums in children
In children with tantrums:
- acceleration in heartbeat,
- increased blood pressure,
- yelling or screaming,
- hitting and kicking,
- Don’t hit your head
- Don’t throw yourself down
- hitting an object or person,
- Behaviors such as impatience are seen.
Especially since it is known as the child’s stubbornness and confrontation period, 2-year-old tantrums are famous. This period, which has a special place in child development, is also called the 2-year-old syndrome.
How to control anger in children?
When tantrums are not controlled, the child may feel lonely and tend to become more irritable and angry. That’s why anger management studies are so important. So what should be done in anger management in children? Let’s see together.
How to treat a child who does not have anger control?
- The most important thing you need to be sensitive about is not to respond to your child’s anger with anger. Consider if there is a situation that might cause your child to become angry and try to find the cause of his anger.
- Don’t do what your child wants right after his tantrums. In this way, you reinforce his tantrum. In addition, if he realizes that he can achieve what he wants as a result of an outburst of anger, he continues to practice this behavior. If your answer is no, it should remain no, it is very important that your behavior be consistent.
- You should not ignore and react to the child’s behavior when he or she is having a burst of anger. In this way, he may be trying to get your attention. Every reaction you give will cause him to continue this behavior.
- After the child has calmed down, discuss the problem with him and discuss how you can solve it and possible options. Tell me how you can express yourself better, she. Mention that your wishes that can be fulfilled are only possible if you act this way.
- Don’t let power struggles happen between you. You can avoid this situation by giving your child a choice. Children also love making their own choices and a sense of control.
If the anger problem in children cannot be resolved, outbursts of anger accompanied by psychiatric conditions such as attention deficit, hyperactivity, depression and anxiety may occur in later ages. For this reason, it is important for families to seek counseling for angry children. Play therapy techniques are among the useful methods used in the psychotherapy process. You can get rid of this problem in a short time and get peace of mind.