Mistakes made in toilet training delay children’s acquiring this habit, and may also have negative effects on their personality development. As a conscious parent, learn what not to do in toilet training and guide your child in the most correct way!
1. Not waiting for the right time
Perhaps the most important issue to consider before starting toilet training is whether your child is ready for it. Don’t be fooled by the toilet training experiences of others. The ages suggested by relatives or family elders may not be suitable for your child, because each child’s development process is different. It is much more accurate to decide this by observing your child, rather than waiting for a certain period of time.
First of all, you should make sure that your child is physically and mentally ready for toilet training. Starting your education too early or late may cause your attempt to fail, as it will lead to difficulty in controlling. You should pay extra attention to periods such as teething, illness, starting nursery, learning to walk or moving. Times like these are not suitable for accustoming your child to something new.
2. Starting toilet training in a stressful time
Another mistake made in toilet training is that mothers ignore themselves. However, the more difficult this process is for the child, the more challenging and tiring it is for the mothers. Therefore, the right timing is also important for you.
You need to be prepared for many factors, such as your child’s incontinence, fear of going to the toilet, or needing to be woken up at night to use the toilet. It is best not to engage in toilet training when you are feeling bad psychologically or when you are tired and stressed.
3. Leaving the child alone
We say to start toilet training early, but this is your case: “When the time comes, it learns itself.” Do not give rise to such a thought. One of the things that should not be done in toilet training is to leave the child alone.
Because these children can develop the idea that they are free to do anything. In addition to causing problems in toilet training, this situation may also cause the child to have difficulty in adapting to the rules in social environments and not to care about others.
4. Being impatient
When everything is going well, the child may go into a regression period in toilet training. You should be as patient and positive as possible during this process. If you expect that toilet training is okay, this can lead to frustration and impatience in you. In summary, keep your expectations low and let those around you say, “Mine got used to it in two days.” Do not listen to the statements that will affect you negatively.
5. Putting pressure on the child
Toilet training is a natural process for children. Therefore, suddenly giving your full attention to it can create a psychological pressure on your child. Having a coercive and intrusive attitude, comparing your child with other children may cause him to reject this process psychologically. Remember that problems such as holding the child’s pee or keeping his poop waiting during toilet training stem from such oppressive attitudes.
6. Forcing her to poop and not letting her examine it
One of the common problems is that the child holds his poop during toilet training. There can be many factors that cause this. The child, who is used to defecating constantly standing up, may have difficulty in pooping while sitting. The thought of a piece of his body falling off can frighten children. This causes children to have a tendency to hold on to poop.
Also, because children are curious about his poop, they may want to see him after defecation. In such a case, you should not take your child out of the toilet hastily, and you should not allow him to examine his poop in detail for a long time. “You know, our poop is like that too. Come on, now let’s send this poop to the others together.” You should comfort your child with suggestive sentences and normalize the situation as much as possible.
7. Constantly asking “Do you have a toilet?” to ask
How often do mothers ask, “Do you have a toilet?” they think that they will achieve success in toilet training of their child so quickly. However, one of the mistakes made in toilet training is to worry about checking the child so often.
You should stop asking your child questions all the time and leave him alone. Questioning your child with the thought that “his toilet has come” every time he hesitates will soon cause him to become depressed, and this will cause him to take a stance against toilet training.
8. Keeping it in the potty/toilet for a long time
One of the worst things you can do to your child is to put pressure on him to go to the toilet. At this point, your attitude should be to take the child to the potty when he says the toilet is coming. Although he says he has a toilet at first, he may not. However, in such a situation, after waiting for 1-2 minutes, “If you want to get up, you can try again when your toilet comes.” You should get your child out of the bathroom by saying.
You should not force your child to sit on the toilet and keep him waiting for a long time just because you will get him into the toilet habit. Problems caused by incorrect toilet training can cause children to become irritable. So much so that this situation may even cause your child to develop a reaction against sitting on the toilet and pee in any area of your home after sitting on the toilet for minutes.
9. Getting angry when he’s undernourished
One of the situations that creates anxiety in toilet training is the problem of incontinence in children. When faced with such a thing, the general attitude of mothers is to scold the child. However, the consequences of improper toilet training can be costly.
You should not get angry, punish and maintain a neutral attitude when your child gets under them or spills their pee on the floor. Instead of getting angry with your child, it will give you much more productive results if you make a note of the times when he pees and poops and the times he misses his diaper.
10. Postponing toilet training at night and tying diapers
Getting children to use the toilet at night is much more difficult than during the day. That’s why you shouldn’t be angry with your child for kidnapping at night. Of course, we do not expect you to handle the first day and night in toilet training, but after you complete your daytime training and put it in a certain order, you should start toilet training at night.
You should put your child to bed without a diaper at night as well as during the day. Instead of tying a diaper, you can place a protective cloth on your bed.