Every loving parent wants their child to grow up to be a happy and life-loving person. But in the process, the parent may neglect their own happiness. However, it is very difficult for an individual who is not happy in his essence to give happiness to another person. A person who does not love himself cannot be expected to love another. So how can we guide the children we are role models for?
Children imitate their parents!
If children grow up among happy individuals, happiness; If he grows up among people who are incompatible, he learns about incompatibility earlier. If a parent is constantly complaining about going to work, it shouldn’t surprise us if their child complains all the time about going to school. How believable, impressive, or instructive can it be for a smoking parent to tell their child “don’t smoke”?
Children are the reflection of the parent!
The identity of babies born with a certain temperament is formed by being influenced by the environment they are in during the growth process. The first and most important link of this circle is the family. For this reason, parents who want to raise happy children (and/or anyone who takes care of the child) must first succeed and feel happy so that they can set a positive example for the child.
How do we raise happy children?
In order to raise happy children, it is useful to review our behavior as a parent. Raising a self-sufficient, self-aware child is not as difficult as it seems. Here’s what we need to do:
- Be a positive example.
- Accept your child as they are. Be careful not to impose your own expectations on him.
- Let him take responsibility.
- Give him the opportunity instead of constantly giving support. See for yourself what you can do. For example, he can dress himself, wash his hands, eat his food, do his homework. These examples may vary according to age and developmental level.
- Don’t always buy gifts.
- Do not reward your child necessary or unnecessarily.
- Instead of making it a duty to spend time with your child, consider the time you spend with them as productive times filled with love and happiness. This way of thinking positively affects your behavior.
- Don’t expect too much above or below your age. Behave according to the level of development.
- Do not compare with other children.
- Tell him you love him and show it with your actions.
- Hug her, make her feel safe.
- Support him when he makes a mistake. Teach him to do the right thing.
- Make him feel how important and special he is.
A self-confident, self-aware and self-aware child will always find a way out, no matter what life brings. Self-confident children learn from them because they know that making mistakes is a natural process. So they always look forward, not backward.